Is it possible to fall in love with someone without seeing what they look like?
To conclude the month of love, we thought we would tackle a controversial and often talked about topic. The word “love” on its own calls for widespread debate. Others argue of its existence and most especially the significance of Valentines Day while to others, it is everything.
Physical attraction + emotional connection = Love
Believed to be the love equation, it has been debated as to whether physical attraction contributes anything at all. A new Netflix series titled “Love Is Blind” attempts to answer the question with an experiment that pairs different people who have never seen each other in separate “pods” to establish an emotional connection. The motive? to see if you can propose to someone you have never met before.
A little spoiler, five days down the line and they were already two proposals. You might argue that five days is to little to decide who you’d like to spend the rest of your life with especially with the modern day “three year dating” rule, but these people seemed genuinely convinced that they were ready.
Meeting your fiancée for the very first time
The rules of the show are that you and your fiancé/ fiancée meet for the very first time a day after the proposal. Luckily, most if not all of them were also physically attracted to their partners. However, they were still asked if their partners physical appearance had at all changed their feelings for them. To which most of them said no.
Let’s take a deeper look. What is an emotional connection?
According to Everyday Health, an emotional connection s a bundle of subjective feelings that come together to create a bond between two people. The word emotional means to arouse strong feelings.
Other studies have shown that in order to have an emotional connection people must be willing to become vulnerable with each other. This vulnerability builds trust which then forms a strong bond.
Susan Johnson and Hara Estroff Marano, authors of the article “In the Name of Love” (Psychology Today Magazine, March 1994), “We fall in love when a strong attachment bond is formed. We stay in love by maintaining the bond.”
The show is set up to encourage this bond by the using the pods so that the pairs do not see each other. It is believed that people are most vulnerable to a stranger. Someone they can’t see. No facial expressions to discourage them, no fear that they might judge them.
Astrology and emotional connection
Most people believe that their star signs affect their love life. Phases like “Scorpios can not date Leo`s” or that “if you find a Libra then he is a keeper” how true could these be?
Zodiac signs have dominated the world for centuries to the point where some people start off their greeting by saying “What star sign are you?”
They are also believed to influence the emotional bond because since zodiac signs are known to tell peoples personalities, most people believe that they can only get along with certain traits and personalities and so the zodiac signs are a great way to tell.
But again, it depends with the type of people. What about physical attraction?
You have seen movie scenes where a man approaches a woman with pretty blond hair in a coffee shop, orders her a cappuccino, asks her on a date and months later they are in love, living together with their dog Bruce. Well, does that really happen in real life?
“I fell in love with her from the first moment i saw her”
“it was love at first sight”
Love at first sight is a tricky subject
It could mean either that; 1) the persons personality appearance e.g. the way they talked
2) Their actual physical features e.g. blond hair, blue eyes
Other people genuinely have a certain type of people they are attracted to first. Sometimes, they don’t even notice the coloration with their past lovers.
In the Netflix show, most couples are attracted to their lovers. However, it has outlined that they are certain factors that play a huge role with physical attraction. Especially if there is an age difference or race.
Research has shown that women are more likely not to be attracted to men younger than them
Internet dating sites like Tinder or Cupid match also work with physical attraction. You swipe according to a person’s profile picture. Internet dating has dominated the market. While other sites encourage meeting and first dates, others are there for people who would like to have long distance relations. The same concept, loving someone you have never met.
To go back to our first question, can you love someone without ever meeting them? The answer is it depends. It depends with the personalities and the people involved. Phases like “beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder” which mean beauty doesn’t exist on its own but is created by observers has been used to back up the theory that you can indeed love someone you have never met.
Let’s look back at our equation
Physical attraction + emotional connection = Love
What do you think?
To conclude, there are various factors which play a role in both the emotional connection and the physical attraction. But all in all, love is different with every single person. They are people who have fallen in love with animals and they believe its genuine. While to others it sounds like pure insanity. In the show, nearly all the couples get married. So maybe physical attraction doesn’t always play a role after all.