Is it possible to fall in love with someone without seeing what they look like?
conclude the month of love, we thought we would tackle a controversial and
often talked about topic. The word “love” on its own calls for
widespread debate. Others argue of its existence and most especially the
significance of Valentines Day while to others, it is everything.
Physical attraction +
emotional connection = Love
to be the love equation, it has been debated as to whether physical attraction
contributes anything at all. A new Netflix series titled “Love Is Blind”
attempts to answer the question with an experiment that pairs different people
who have never seen each other in separate “pods” to establish
connection. The motive? to see if you can propose to someone you have never met
A little spoiler, five days down the line and they were
already two proposals. You might argue that five days is to little to decide
who you’d like to spend the rest of your life with especially with the modern
day “three year dating” rule, but these people seemed genuinely
convinced that they were ready.
Meeting your fiancée for the very first time
rules of the show are that you and your fiancé/ fiancée meet for the very
first time a day after the proposal. Luckily, most if not all of them were also
physically attracted to their partners. However, they were still asked if their
partners physical appearance had at all changed their feelings for them. To
which most of them said no.
take a deeper look. What is an emotional connection?
to Everyday Health, an emotional connection s a bundle of subjective feelings
that come together to create a bond between two people. The word emotional
means to arouse strong feelings.
studies have shown that in order to have an emotional connection people must be
willing to become vulnerable with each other. This vulnerability builds trust
which then forms a strong bond.
Susan Johnson and Hara
Estroff Marano, authors of the article “In the Name of Love” (Psychology Today Magazine,
March 1994), “We fall in love when a strong attachment bond is formed. We stay
in love by maintaining the bond.”
The show is set up to encourage this bond by
the using the pods so that the pairs do not see each other. It is believed that
people are most vulnerable to a stranger. Someone they can’t see. No facial
expressions to discourage them, no fear that they might judge them.
Astrology and emotional connection
Most people believe that their star signs
affect their love life. Phases like “Scorpios can not date Leo`s” or
that “if you find a Libra then he is a keeper” how true could these
Zodiac signs have dominated the world for
centuries to the point where some people start off their greeting by saying “What
star sign are you?”
They are also believed to influence the emotional bond because since zodiac signs are known to tell peoples personalities, most people believe that they can only get along with certain traits and personalities and so the zodiac signs are a great way to tell.
But again, it depends with the type of
people. What about physical attraction?
You have seen movie scenes where a man
approaches a woman with pretty blond hair in a coffee shop, orders her a
cappuccino, asks her on a date and months later they are in love, living
together with their dog Bruce. Well, does that really happen in real life?
fell in love with her from the first moment i saw her”
was love at first sight”
Love at first sight is a tricky subject
It could mean either that; 1) the persons personality appearance e.g. the
way they talked
2) Their actual physical features e.g. blond hair, blue eyes
Other people genuinely have a certain type of
people they are attracted to first. Sometimes, they don’t even notice the
coloration with their past lovers.
In the Netflix show, most couples are
attracted to their lovers. However, it has outlined that they are certain
factors that play a huge role with physical attraction. Especially if there is
difference or race.
Research has shown that women are more likely not to be attracted to
men younger than them
dating sites like Tinder or Cupid match also work with physical attraction. You
swipe according to a person’s profile picture. Internet dating has dominated
the market. While other sites encourage meeting and first dates, others are
there for people who would like to have long distance relations. The same
concept, loving someone you have never met.
go back to our first question, can you love someone without ever meeting them?
The answer is it depends. It depends with the personalities and the people
involved. Phases like “beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”
which mean beauty doesn’t exist on its own but is created by observers has been
used to back up the theory that you can indeed love someone you have never met.
Let’s look back at our equation
Physical attraction + emotional
connection = Love
do you think?
conclude, there are various factors which play a role in both the emotional
connection and the physical attraction. But all in all, love is different with
every single person. They are people who have fallen in love with animals and
they believe its genuine. While to others it sounds like pure
insanity. In the show, nearly all the couples get married. So maybe physical
attraction doesn’t always play a role after all.